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Value

Tentative realisations:

1) to be of value, one needs to bring value to some person(s) or some cause;

2) "value" includes demonstrating the efficacy of a system, eg being a model student demonstrates the success of the education system, fulfilling (1);

3) s/he who commands respect is valuable;

4) to command respect, one needs to bring substantial value to some person(s) or some cause (ie be "good" at something);

5) it is not enough to be "good" at something to command respect, for this respect in question is offered by other people. thus, one needs to be "good" at an endeavour that other people value (eg good at making music vs good at wasting time);

6) more value is accorded to acts of value that are more challenging to achieve (eg grand humanitarian efforts or benevolent volunteer work) or elicits an emotion (ie someone can be considered to be of special value if s/he makes you feel a certain way);

7) value is relative, for if everyone is good at something, then no one is (eg society values oral hygiene because it brings about positive externalities (1) and brushing teeth is beneficial to the cause of good oral health (2)(4), but most everyone does it, thus being good at brushing teeth is often overlooked unless pointed out intentionally or compared explicitly), for such items have passive value that only "activates" when "observed" and instances of its observation are relatively low compared to other more valued endeavours (6);

8) self-talk and self-worth help us perceive our value where no one else might yet;

9) self-talk and self-worth are provisional lies that we tell ourselves in order to not give up in the interim, until ultimately (1)(2)(4)(5) or (6) can be realised and achieved; one's intrinsic value can only be realised if it is demonstrated and realised by other people (1)(4)(5) or onto a system (2);

10) we are all of value, perceptions of not having value allude to not yet having met the right people (1) or not yet discovering the system to which we can contribute value toward (2).

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