Self-improvement

You're already perfect, yet you can always be better.

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improvement
/ɪmˈpruːvm(ə)nt/
noun
an example or action of of improving or being improved; a thing that makes something better or is better than something else
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The ultimate goal of self-improvement is to reach the state or point where you no longer feel the persistent need to improve yourself. Self-improvement, therefore, seems to be self-defeating.

The point of improving yourself is to make yourself better than you were before, or in some cases, better than someone else. However, implicit to improving yourself is actually the assumption that there something inherently wrong with you and the way that you're living right now.

Thus, obsessively indulging in self-help material and incessantly chasing self-improvement might just feed the feeling of inadequacy; if we keep chasing improvement, we sometimes overlook the progress that we have made.

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