Today I discuss why some of us feel like we can never get better, how it is actually our fault, and what we could start to do about it try to make things better. _ As was common for most students my age then who were at the stage of our lives where we were at the start of trying to figure things out, I had found myself stuck in a cycle of self-inflicted misery. Today, I feel much better than before, and feel like I have become a better person. I come to realize that one of the key things holding back our progress is our idea of identity. Identity is what defines us. It is what we characterize ourselves as. Thus, it may be possible that we identify ourselves with negative attributes. This becomes a problem because becoming better can be seen as making ourselves “not ourselves anymore”; By identifying ourselves with a negative attribute, we are making counterproductive efforts to get rid of that attribute and become better, because every improvement is seen as us “losing ourselves”,...
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