wanderingintofocus

Tentative realisations: 1) to be of value, one needs to bring value to some person(s) or some cause; 2) "value" includes demonstrating the efficacy of a system, eg being a model student demonstrates the success of the education system, fulfilling (1); 3) s/he who commands respect is valuable; 4) to command respect, one needs to bring substantial value to some person(s) or some cause (ie be "good" at something); 5) it is not enough to be "good" at something to command respect, for this respect in question is offered by other people. thus, one needs to be "good" at an endeavour that other people value (eg good at making music vs good at wasting time); 6) more value is accorded to acts of value that are more challenging to achieve (eg grand humanitarian efforts or benevolent volunteer work) or elicits an emotion (ie someone can be considered to be of special value if s/he makes you feel a certain way); 7) value is relative, for if ever...

confidence /ˈkɒnfɪd(ə)ns/ noun the feeling or belief that one can have faith in or rely on someone or something. _ self-esteem /ˌsɛlfɛˈstiːm/ noun confidence in one's own worth or abilities; self-respect. _ Recently I had started setting up various social media accounts. When signing up for a Twitter account, one of the steps was to Describe yourself, to which the subheading text stated:  "What makes you special? Don't think too hard, just have fun with it."  This instruction comprises three parts. Let's break it down. (1) Just have fun with it fun /fʌn/ noun enjoyment, amusement, or light-hearted pleasure. "the children were having fun in the play area" _ I think most people realise it in their hearts, but the journey of growing up has shrouded this understanding in the shadows of professionalism till they are no longer able to relate to that which they had used to, and that is that: Fun can be an end in itself. It is often pe...

"There's a word for this, it's called hypocrisy."  - Dr Chee Soon Juan ______________________________ Invariably in conversation at some point, discussion will see you stumble upon some topics that made you or your interlocutor uncomfortable that one of you don't want to discuss, but the other wants to talk about. And that's perfectly normal. But being too self-righteous and delusional, I had never really understood that mentality because I thought that I believed that everything is better if everyone talked about everything instead of avoiding anything, not realising that I oftentimes practice and exhibit avoidant tendencies as well. Perhaps I should first discuss the mentality that I was initially convinced that I wholeheartedly stood by. I used to believe that everything should always be on the table for discussion, because that which remains undiscussed will remain unresolved until a conclusion is reached, but one is unlikely to reach conclusions...